Sara, 40, had vaginal lasering in a bid to restore her self-confidence, her sex life and her ability to go running.
At 26, I had a child. After that I suffered incontinence whenever I ran. When I took part in the City to Surf, I ran so hard, my tights were wet all the way down to my knees.
At the gym, if we were ever instructed to do star jumps I’d have to excuse myself halfway through to run to the toilet.
I didn’t think there was anything I could do about it. My doctor had told me after I gave birth that I’d have to look after my pelvic floor but I wasn’t told why or how. I just presumed that it was something to do with the quick delivery and worried that something not quite right must have happened.
That worry intensified after my daughter’s father said I was “a bit loose down there.”
I did lots of strong yoga in the hope of firming myself up but I still felt very insecure about myself. There’s this horrible term that men use – The Gumboot – I’ve heard them laugh at it and I’d wonder if anyone used that about me. I tried to tell myself that women laugh at the size of men’s penises so it was tit for tat and just the same… except it wasn’t..
After I split up from my partner, I held back from any other relationships because I was so self-conscious. I used to worry: ‘Am I good enough?’ It might have been unfounded but how is anyone to know? You can’t compare.
I don’t know how long I’d have carried on feeling like this if I hadn’t heard about vaginal laser treatment and the MonaLisa Touch. I work in a hairdressing salon and once I started mentioning it, I was surprised how many other women knew about it too or knew someone who’d had it.
I made some enquiries, found The Jade Room and asked if it would help my incontinence and my laxity issues. “That’s exactly what it’s designed for,” I was told.
It wasn’t cheap but compared to what women spend on other treatments to make them feel or look better, I thought it was good value. You can’t put a price on confidence.
I had the three treatments about a month apart. It was obviously as awkward as any procedure that involves putting your legs in stirrups but it was totally fine. By this time I had a new partner. I didn’t want to tell him what I was doing and you can’t have sex for a week afterwards so each time I’d pretend I wasn’t available.
After just the second treatment, however, I could notice a real difference. I did feel firmer and I really enjoyed sex I even had a series of strong orgasms, my first since I’d split from my daughter’s father.
It made me so happy. I couldn’t even remember the last time I’d felt that comfortable having sex. I didn’t know if it was the surgery or the fact I felt more confident or a combination of both but I was really excited about it.
A few months later, I finally gathered up the courage to ask my partner: ‘How does it feel down there? If you were giving marks out of ten with one being loose and ten being tight, what mark would you give me?”
He replied: “Somewhere in the middle I guess,” so I thought: ‘Well that’s normal then. I’ve had a kid and I’m normal.’ It gave me great peace of mind.
As well as the greatly improved sex, another bonus has been that I’m no longer incontinent. I can run quite fast and don’t have so much as a drip and I love being able to head out without having to constantly look for a toilet or worry about a wet patch.
In fact, I feel so good, I’m going to drink two big cups of tea and see how many star jumps I can do without having to run to the toilet as well!
In the hair salon now I talk to all the women about vaginal lasering. It’s made such a difference I want everyone to know about it. My sister’s just had her second baby and I’ve already told her: “You should have this done as well.”